BDSM newbie guide

All of this information piled on you is going to seem overwhelming at times. Remember we were all newbies in this at one time. :)

I would like to leave you with some parting thoughts about your choice of becoming involved in BDSM.

Your kink is okay (YKIOK) - It's an acronym used in the BDSM crowd, and a very good one. In the past you might have gotten prejudiced against your kinks. Your kink may not be my own, but as long as it is safe, sane and consensual. You have every personal right to practice it.

You will not learn Safe, Sane, and Consensual BDSM overnight but with time you will excel at it.

BDSM is not for everyone, but it might be for you. You may become frustrated, and there might be hardships, but if this is what you enjoy it will be rewarding.

So what is BDSM anyway?

BDSM is a combined acronym made to mean simultaneously Bondage and Domination (B&D;), Domination and submission (D/s or D&S;), and Sadomasochism (S&M;). BDSM usually is both Domination and submission or Sadomasochism.

Most people, who practice Domination and submission, also practice Sadomasochism, and likewise with Sadomasochism.

Sadomasochism - Is the term combining Sadism and masochism. Both terms describe people who eroticize pain. A sadist enjoys giving pain, and a masochist enjoys receiving.

Now that you have the simplistic how about a bit deeper
Domination and submission is usually termed together as a Power Exchange. The submissive releasing their power to the Dominant whom uses that power to combine with their own to bring the submissive to a satisfying power experience.

Two examples can be, the Sadomasochistic session of spanking. The submissive "submits" to the Dominant's hand and through their moans and movements explains what is going on with them. They release power and the Dominant takes that power and uses it for mutual satisfaction.

Another can be the simple act of a Dominant requesting that the submissive not wear underwear. The Dominant gains pleasure from the knowledge the submissive is naked underneath their clothes and accessible, and the submissive gains pleasure in serving the Dominant's request and feeling naughty.

The Credo: Safe, Sane and Consensual
A lonnnnng long time ago people who do BDSM (Players) decided to make a creedo. Safe, sane and consensual. That credo is tattooed on the minds of all people who are into BDSM.

Make it Safe, make it sane and make it consensual.

So you have these people into BDSM (Players)... what do they do?
They like to scene or play. Scene and play are interchangeably words used to describe a Dominant and a submissive getting together and doing the Power Exchange.

A Scene may consist of agreeing to polish someone's shoes or an over-the-knee spanking. The possibilities are limitless.

BDSM terms illustrated glossary
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Subs in waiting, how to find a dominant

Don't just sit there waiting for TheOne to drop out of the sky and mold you like clay. Some ways submissives on their own can do some self teaching into the finer arts and beauty of submission.

Little things you can do in everyday life for your Master

With the spirit of Valentines Day haunting Ms. lily rubs elbows with subs and mentions ways to make your Dom feel more special.

Succesful Traits of a Good Master

We write a lot of articles about after you meet the perfect partner. Ms. lily sketches out some good traits for a sub to look for in searching for their perfect Dom.

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