Am I a masochist? - Interviews

SubM

Here's the questionaire:

0. Define masochism as it relates to you:

The hunger for discomfort, physical and emotional, for the purpose of experiencing pain as pleasure.

1. How much does masochism creep into your daily lifestyle?

I try to keep a buffer, a very clear boundary between what I choose to experience as masochism and what I allow others to inflict on me. I think if a submissive does not deliniate between his BDSM life and his munane survival skills there is a real danger of becoming disfunctional. The individual must not lose the ability to protect himself.

2. Do you have fantasies about the more painful and stick to a lighter pain or do you like all forms of pain and torture in the bdsm realm?

? Until recently I felt that D/s was mainly mental and I didnt understand those who enjoyed the application of higher degrees of pain. And your question is illformed in that it addresses only the two polar ends of the continuum. A couple of months ago I experienced sensation from a domme who knew, really knew what she was doing. She warmed me up, increasing the sensation through spanking, paddling, flogging with suede, then leather and finally a caning. It was not severe by any standard, yet I had feared the can prior to that point as if it were death itself. It was not. It was managable. The week following I experienced a single tail that left my back a delightful lavender with some verticle marks and one small break. My point here is that I thought I could never enjoy that degree of sensation, but I did and it was very, very good for me. Very cathartic. I'm not interested in extreme pain. I am not interested in nonconsensual pain. But there is considerable ground to cover between light pain and torture. A BDSM group with knowledgable tops can help those who wish to progress along the continuum. It should be done with forethought through time not by jumping out of a plane without a parachute.

3. What is your main bdsm masochistic practice? (aka bondage, humiliation, flogging etc..)

For most of my 43 years experience in BDSM I have been an afficianado of humiliation and degradation. I'm sure this was because that was the area I found my first submissive feelings. I think in the past few years I have gained a greater appreciation for the physical sensations of bondage and flogging. I'm not sure I have a "main" practice at this point but am more capable of enjoying the broad experience that those of us who are unconventional are able to enjoy.

4. Your screen name and age please :)

SubM mid50s

SubmissiveCat

Here's the questionaire:

0. Define masochism as it relates to you:

i define myself as a masochist because of the pleasure i receive from pain. The highs i reach can be better than any drug. Pain is something i crave, and the marks i wear in receiving pain are precious to me.

1. How much does masochism creep into your daily lifestyle?

Because i am uncollared, not enough!! Even so, i manage to enjoy the company of a sadist about once a week for play.

2. Do you have fantasies about the more painful and stick to a lighter pain or do you like all forms of pain and torture in the bdsm realm?

All forms so far. i love to be bullwhipped, bruised and bleeding and caned to the same degree. i have enjoyed knife play and fire play, nipple and clit torture and temporary piercing. i can enjoy greater degrees of pain when it is built slowly.

3. What is your main bdsm masochistic practice? (aka bondage, humiliation, flogging etc..)

Main? That's a hard one! Whips, flogs, canes, knives, crops... also enjoy bondage and deep humiliation.

4. Your screen name and age please :)

submissivecat - age 37

slavetk

Here's the questionaire:

0. Define masochism as it relates to you:

: Although i had had a few experiences in the past, some in my eearly adulthood and some more recently, my true exploration of the world of sadomasochism started when i met my current Master over a year ago. The scenes i have had with Him are much much more intense than any of what i had experienced before. i quickly fell in love with Him, and as our relationship of Master and slave as well as of a couple of lovers developed further, my devotion to Him as His slave grew. Masochism, and my experience of it, therefore, is deeply related with my love for my Master. The intense physical stimulations of SM play, inflicted by Him upon my body and mind, somehow intensifies my love for and trust in Him although the SM elements were not all there is between us. It is also a challenge for me: How much can i take? How much of a man am i? Reaching my limits, there is this sense of completion of my being, both physicaland mental, or spiritual. i am not sure if i have ever reached what they call nirvana. The journey in search of that nirvana with my Master has always been such a pleasure and fun no matter how painful his blows are. The pain (my Master prefers to call it intense stimulations) is good when it is given out of love and desire. i get excited when a partner desires me and gets excited working on my body and mind. The stronger His desire is, the more i can and want to take, and the more of me i want to give. Master and i also enjoy sessions over the phone. He gives me instructions and orders by phone or email, and i follow them, doing things myself to my own body: flogging, CBTT, electro, dildos, etc. i can do that when i know it excites Him and that he gets pleasure out of it when i submit written reports on the trainings. Doing it completely on my own for my own pleasure doea not work. It is always in the context of giving pleasure to the partner. As my slave pledge says, i get no pleasure except in serving my Master.

1. How much does masochism creep into your daily lifestyle?

? It has been my slave rules to sit on the porcelain bowl to pee. i don't stand against a urinal to pee. i often do not wear underwear. i also shave my pubes, balls, cock and ass. i am to write my slave journals everyday to my Master. As i work at home, i am always in nude at home, being always ready to submit when He calls me for a phone session. Otherwise, my life style has not changed so much. Well, when i go out to the gay scene, i'd now rather go to leather bars instead of just any gay bars. i admit that there is more sadomasochism in leather bars although leather is not necessarily SM.

2. Do you have fantasies about the more painful and stick to a lighter pain or do you like all forms of pain and torture in the bdsm realm?

Although i do fantasize some wild things, i do like doing them too. i like all forms of pain and torture, physically done to my body and mind, as far as i have experienced. To what extent and intensity, it's hard to tell, although as far as i have heard and seen, what my Master and i do is quite intense and extreme.

3. What is your main bdsm masochistic practice? (aka bondage, humiliation, flogging etc..)

Flogging, CBTT, electro, bondage, hot wax, pins, sound, catheter, fisting, WS, punching and kicking, licking my Master's boots, etc. as well as sucking and fucking. Verbal and role play is not my kind of game, but they certainly add to the excitement of other, more substantial, SM play.

4. Your screen name and age please :)

slavetk, 37 years old