Strap-On and female domination

Just what he wants and fears the most: anal penetration, or the very real threat of it. Many men have fantasies about this, but most are ashamed to admit that it turns them on. Some just want to be threatened with being penetrated and mostly enjoy seeing the domina wear a strap-on. Others wish to perform oral sex on the domina’s penis. In any scenario of this nature where all his homophobic ideas were ingrained in him from birth, this fantasy is a cultural script. If we lived in ancient Greece, his scary fantasy would have been an everyday occurrence in that society, whose cultural traditions dictated that an older man take a younger man under his wing.

But we don’t live in ancient Greece, so now we have taken the cultural taboo-fantasy of the male being sodomized into our world and made it another instrument of control for the domina. What an effective instrument it is! Even just walking into the room wearing a strap-on changes the dynamic completely and immediately. The male is totally cowed by the sight of you in your fetish best with your member, which is larger than his of course, dangling between your legs. The visible threat of it as it protrudes from your pudendum, how it bobbles around when you walk, and how it is directly in his face when you are standing and he is kneeling if front of you, all these visions increase your power over him, even if you don't use it to penetrate him.

Blow Me...

You have already learned how to use a dildo as an instrument of humiliation and/or discipline, and now I'd like to discuss the dildo as an instrument of sensation, particularly penetration. Although a lot of people don't know it, oral sex is included under the umbrella word of sodomy. "Sodomy” as a sexual act celebrates the androgynous aspects of sex; meaning the sodomite prefers to use only those orifices that each partner possesses, the mouth and the anus. So if he wants “anal,” the first thing he has to perform for me is oral. I love having my cock sucked and I love how he struggles between his enjoyment of the act and his humiliation at being made to perform it. Most of the time, his enjoyment wins out over his humiliation and he obeys my exhortations to suck harder and to take more into his mouth. Oral service is the least invasive form of penetration and can be the best way to break him in to bigger and better things, inserted into more interesting and smaller, tighter places. During oral service, at first he will be very tentative and only take the head into his mouth. Let him be until you see that he himself has gotten enthusiastic about it, which hopefully he will. When you see that he is sucking more avidly, urge him to take more of it into his mouth.

As he tries to swallow more of it, he may tense up. Talk him into relaxing his throat, and maybe even stroke his throat gently to encourage him into relaxing the muscles. Verbally encourage him in a soft voice, promising new explorations in the future but giving away no hint as to what they may be. As his head slides further down your penis, use your fingers to measure his progress in swallowing more of it. Placing your hands on his head, moving your hips in rhythm with his head will further encourage him, as will any other sign of affection or show of strength. The hands-on-the-head idea is also good for giving him that once-in-a-while push down on your penis. When I do this I like to make him gag, just a little. (Okay, maybe not always just a little.) Gagging him with your penis also has the added benefit of making his nose run, and smearing any makeup you may have put on him in combination with a force fem or cross-dressing scene, or just for humiliation. Other good signs are saliva running down the condom, slurping noises, moans, and groans.