Femdom bondage tutorials and techniques

Not only is resistance futile, but for the devotee of bondage it may also be counterproductive! Some of the primary feelings invoked by bondage are helplessness, vulnerability, and guiltlessness, and since these feelings are desired and highly-sought-after states, more than preliminary resistance to romantic rope restraint can indeed be futile. Even if resistance is part of the scene, it is only a way to attain the ultimate goal: the free-floating feeling attained by both body and mind when in inescapable bondage. The submissive experienced at being in bondage know's how to relax into the ropes and how to make their very restrictiveness a comfort, like a great big hug, or that blue blanket he dragged around everywhere as a child.

Bondage is a multifaceted aspect of life behind the veil, and it occupies many a dark and interesting comer of the erotic mind. Millions of people who express no interest in any other aspect of BDSM, and do not use many or any other BDSM techniques, are fascinated by the beauty of bondage and the romance of the ropes. For many the fascination started in childhood. True stories abound of children trying to tie themselves up, or more successfully, lie up their walling and unwilling friends, so strong was the pull of the ropes. One fellow confessed to me that in his fantasies, he loved to rescue the "maiden" from the villain, so he could cany her off himself and put her in his own kind of bondage. (Leave it to a man to come up with that one: He rescues the poor maiden from the frying pan only to throw her into the fire.) His story was a bit more complex than that; having invented this fantasy in childhood, he had litile or no way of knowing that what he was “trading” upon was “transference”: when the kidnapped allies him- or herself with, or begins to feel sympathy for, the kidnappers. As her initial rescuer, the maiden had immediate trust in him, which he then betrayed.

Because they were children when these early fantasies formed, they were too young to understand the significance of tying someone up, of taking away freedom. They were loo young to grasp or analyze the change it had on their and their “bondees”’ emotional state, but even as kids, both could feel this change.

As an adult playing at romantic bondage, a good domina is aware of the emotional effect of putting someone in restraint and she will use it to enhance the experience and lighten her control over him. While in bondage, he can focus his attention on his helplessness and live completely in the moment, thereby releasing anxiety and stress caused by daily life. And bondage is an aspect that can be combined with many other aspects of BDSM. How lovely!